communication is an art, and like a more traditional art like say, painting, when practiced by an amateur, it is painfully obvious. take written communication. I for one, clearly have no passion for it, hence, the large breaks between posts here - a place where I was supposed to be practicing how to communicate. I still send 50 emails a day, but they often looks like this:
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“yep, sounds good.”
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“let me get back to you”
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“…..” (ignored email)
spoken communication is even trickier, because so much of it is made up of context, and subtleties that are expressed through other means. intonation, rising and falling pitch, excitable gestures, etc.
for example, the word “conflict” takes 2 basic forms. the first is that of a noun, (a fight, battle, or war). it’s easy to pick this usage out due to the accent and extension of the first syllable; CONflict.
the other form is that of intransitive verb, (competitive or opposing action of incompatibles : antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons) b: mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands.) again, fairly easy to pick out due to the accent on the second syllable; conFLICT.
you would think this is straighforward enough for any reasonably skilled adult to handle - doesn’t take Tony Robbins to pull this one off in front of a crowd.
however
if you are the fucking hack bitch that insists on saying the fucking word the same way in either usage (conFLICT), especially when you mostly use it as a noun, then the fucking act of sound coming out of your god damn mouth inflicts pain on every other person in the room as we are forced to translate english from your mother tongue of dumbfuck because you keep saying things like, “the conFLICT between the vendor and us is mostly due to a previous conFLICT that involved another person, and that conFLICT is what is causing this new conFLICT….”
like a needle through the ear into my brain.